Dating bipolar dont do it
On the top bunk I woke early, thinking of weddings: the one where we met, the one I saw in our future.Thoughts raced to whether our kids would have her blue eyes, or my brown.As the spouse of a man with bipolar disorder, I am well aware of the life and relationship my children would have if they dated someone with bipolar disorder. Ultimately, you need to let your partner take responsibility for themselves and their illness but sometimes it is up to you to teach them how when they can’t do it.
And my kids are really smart and learned a lot through my personal experiences so I have no doubt that they could handle it but… That means in the relationship as well as , child rearing and around your home. Everyone should give 100% but when one partner is sick, the other one has to give more to keep everything afloat. You can’t keep score and you can’t expect more from your partner than they are capable of giving. They will feel like their partner’s parent a lot of the time. However, you do have to for the health of yourself. You will have to explain to family, friends and sometimes strangers, their behaviour. You don’t owe anyone an explanation but there will be times that you will feel humiliated or like people blame you for your partner’s behaviour. There will be times that the bipolar will completely take over your partner and the relationship.
You may think that my stance is discriminating but I know far too well what it is like and what the future would hold. And taking on the parental role really kills the romance too if you know what I mean. You must always think about triggers and what is best for your partner’s stability.
A relationship with someone who has bipolar is not easy and can cause yourself as well as your partner to be become more ill if you don’t have the strength and proper tools to handle the relationship. That could mean anything from quitting drinking to travel plans.
(If you are unfamiliar with the halo effect, it simply means that a person with one good quality is seen to have many good qualities.)Few, if any women will ever achieve this perfect vision in their real lives.
I have yet to meet the perfect woman on this earth, so we can assume that there is no such thing as a perfect man.