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And while most of the stuff seemed very common sense-y, it was nice to see someone give insight into why it was important.
If you have been dating for 6 months, you can plan a vacation in six months. I always laugh when friends tell me that they are planning to go away to Europe next year with someone they just met.
I could discuss at length why I think this is: poor societal socialization, the ever-present double standard, mothers coddling their sons, fathers absolving their sons of responsibility, a learned disrespect for women, male privilege or just plain bad manners…or most likely a combination of all of these things. So when we go out in the dating world with all of that self-love, we’re really looking for a man who can add value to our lives. We’re looking for men who can be strong partners, who are confident and secure in themselves. Who can respect our education and work experience and full lives and add to it with their own. If they come up and you disagree, it’s entirely okay to get into an argument about it and to return to more neutral subjects. It seems a sad, strange business, particularly when you’re saying you want a relationship. It’s attractive when someone is body positive and secure about who they are and how they look.
Regardless, I keep coming back to the fact that many men are just unkind in my experience. So we might be a little, shall we say, less than impressed when we are hit up for a midnight booty call by the virtual stranger we met online. I cannot count how many times pneumonia has reared its ugly head as the excuse that someone has ghosted me completely for days or weeks on end. I’m not typically paranoid, but there must be an epidemic for as many times as I’ve heard that one.
And forgive us if we don’t enjoy an evening of mansplaining politics and religion all night or hearing you complain about your awful ex (absolving yourself from all responsibility for the breakdown in the relationship).
And we notice when you’re not actually listening and just trying to make, you know, appropriate listening noises. Are you just looking for sex and not an actual relationship? Do you really just want a FWB (friends with benefits) arrangement?